Sexuality

It's funny how we go about our lives as if everything is ok. Yet on the inside we're dying. We like to hide our true faces from each other. Oh no can't possibly do that. No sirree bob.


Because to reveal your true face to the public or even sometimes to family is to become vulnerable. And no one likes having their most intimate life experiences revealed to others in a manipulative manner to embarrass you.

But here's the clue. If you cannot be vulnerable with people, you cannot connect with people.

I used sexuality because it is one of the lesser talked about subjects that causes problems between men and women.

But sexuality is not the problem, it is a blessing. The problem is communication. During sex everyone becomes vulnerable to the person they are having sex with. Name of the game. And we worry about how we looked to the other person during mating, we worry if they feel what we feel, we worry about if they'll enjoy it and come back for more.

We worry entirely too much about nothing.

Vulnerability like any other experience has it's purpose in this world and in our lives. We must learn to take that vulnerability and use it to our advantage. You see when you don't wear faces, you don't have to constantly be on the ball remembering which face you wear with which people. Or what lie did I tell to whom so I can keep the other lies straight. This is not living, this is existing.

The honest to God truth is if you can't be vulnerable with your brothers and sisters on a daily basis you can't connect with your brothers and sisters when you need them most.

Sex is not only a form of reproduction, it is a form of communication. One of the deepest, most personally intimate communications you will ever share with another human being. And even during mating the mind wanders. You end up remembering you needed to transfer money from one account to another. Or you forgot your wash in the machine and it's going to mildew, and you'll have to wash them all over again. Or your wondering if this is Wednesday, because if this is Wednesday then you're missing NCIS. Always we are with our minds somewhere else instead of with the person we're communicating with. In the moment with that person. Sharing a unique and one of a kind experience with that person, don't miss it. No matter how many times you may have sex again, that moment is gone forever. So do not take your relationships with your brothers and sisters with such a devil may care attitude.

If I can give one piece of advice it is to follow your passions, your dreams. Let your hopes soar so high that what you desire will have no other option than to appear. Live the life you've always wanted to live, be the person you've always wanted to be. Don't give yourself any excuses for failure because failure is a part of the journey and it helps to teach you how to be a success. Listen to none but your own heart when it comes to the passion or the mission of your life. If they cannot live it for you or die it for you, then why listen to anyone else? You are the expert on you.

Yes I know I unfairly used the title "sexuality" to get you here but we must be wise if we are to teach a generation that can't sit still for longer than 3 minutes. Which by the way is the average length of commercials on TV.

Life is an experience, enjoy it, revel in it, marvel at it, be thankful for it. But most of all get the hell out there and live it. Your brother, Ollis.